Great Sex - 8 Common Love Making Errors Made By Most Men!
For your partner to enjoy great sex you have to understand that what women want, is not always what men believe they want.
Great sex for women is a combination of both mental and physical stimulation.
Both areas need to be targeted, for a women to achieve satisfaction or orgasm.
If you don’t make the mistakes below, you and your partner will enjoy better sex together, or great sex!
1. Kissing
90% of women in a recent poll claimed they did not get enough French kissing.
For women it is one of the most sensual and personal things you can do, to express passion, desire and love, so always make sure you start with some kissing to set the mood.
2. Not Enough Foreplay
Men are more easily aroused than women, women need far more foreplay.
If your idea of foreplay is around 5 minutes, you need to think again and target 30 minutes or more, which leads onto the next point.
3. Neglecting key erogenous zones
There are the obvious erogenous zones to target, however there are many that are neglected, here are just some of them.
The neck - The nape of the neck is one of the most sensitive areas for any women and if it’s kissed and nibbled, your partner will be highly aroused.
The Buttocks - What women is not sensitive about her buttocks?
Most are and many are extremely self conscious about it.
By kissing it, squeezing it and telling your partner how much you love it, you will make her feel relaxed and confident.
The inner thighs - Before heading for the obvious region, pause at the inner thighs and tease your partner. The area is sensitive and the expectation of what may come next is highly arousing!
The hair and ears - Many women simply love having their hair being brushed and played with and its highly sesitive. The ears are a mass of sensitive nerve endings, that if targeted will be highly appreciated.
There are other erogenous zones and the above are just a few examples - try and target all the above and others for a complete sexual experience.
4. Coming to soon
Many men have this problem and it’s suprisingly common.
In most instances the solution is simple:
Slow down and also learn to control your breathing!
We have written on how to last longer in bed in other articles and it far easier to achieve sexual control, than many men think.
5. Trying complicated positions
You’ve seen it in a porn movie and think lets try it!
However a complicated position where you need to spend all your concentration just to try and hold the position is not erotic at all.
Sexual positions should allow you to concentrate on the sensation, NOT The act itself.
There are around 4 positions that are known as the best positions for sex and you need to know what they are. They are mentioned in the ancient works of the Kama Sutra and the Perfumed garden - if you don’t know what they are look them up.
6. Not using the power of words
Sex is not a place for silence - We express ourselves with words in everyday life and sex is no different.
Tell your partner how much you are enjoying sex and how much you desire them.
You also need to communicate to find out what your partner likes - sex without talking and expressing yourself, is simply cold and unemotional - sex without emotion and communication, will never be great sex, so learn the power of sexual communication.
7. When its over its over
So you have finished the act and you wander off and make a coffee, or out the door, this will not be appreciated.
Sex is a coming together of bodies, but it’s also the coming together of spirit and you need to express your bond with your partner after sex has finished to complete the experience.
Hold her, tell you enjoyed it and be affectionate.
8. Lack of romance
What women doesn’t like being given flowers or taken for a surprise dinner?
Not many!
Use it to your advantage, to set the mood and surprise your partner.
If you make an effort and add a little romance, you will reap the dividends later.
Most women want a considerate lover and someone who makes an effort and this does not mean just in the bedroom. Adding a touch of romance to your relationship will mean that you are setting a mood for sex to.
So there you have it, 8 common errors made by men in terms of sexual mistakes.
The good news is they are all easy to correct and if you don’t make them, you will enjoy better sex and a more fulfilling relationship.
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October 23rd, 2007 at 5:23 pm
Eric
Great points you raise here. I dont agree with everything you have written but overall nice writing style.